Oh, and let`s put that aside: the Irish exit is not “ghost” because this word refers almost exclusively to dating. Ghosting is a ubiquitous term for the unceremonious departure of a relationship, a millennium “go out for a bundle of smoke and never come back”, adapted to a world of 140 characters. That is not what we are talking about. It`s not about leaving your SO and/or your family and never talking to them again to escape the death spiral you`ve imposed on yourself. It`s about leaving a bar/party/social box without exchanging frivolities. Completely different. The Irish exit is not rude. This is a sign of emotional intelligence – openness, self-confidence. This means that you know where you are with everyone, that you have a semblance of consciousness. It is the rare explosion of conciseness and selfless subtlety that is so unusual in modern human interaction. You choose not to hold everyone back by giving up your own selfish farewell. That is a good thing.
A slang term that is rumored to come from the Northeast, an “Irish farewell” refers to a person who withdraws from a party, social gathering, or a very bad date without saying goodbye. Other common names for the same type of silent exit are “French exit” and “Dutch exit” – all of which point to negative ethnocultural stereotypes. “It will take you forever to get to him,” said the woman, her hand well manucidated on my shoulder. “You have his card, don`t you? Just take off. Before I could object, his hand moved to my back and physically forced me out of the door. I didn`t fight against that. “There`s nothing wrong with the Irish exit,” she shouted at me as the doors closed and cut me off from the party. “No one cares when you leave.” The term Irish farewell sometimes appears in popular and light discussions on party etiquette, but it certainly had its advocates.
BuzzFeed supported the tactics, but also the writers of Lifehacker and Slate. The Total Sorority Move blog went further in 2014 and offered a guide on how to create an Irish outing. An Irish outing is also suitable if a party is bad or boring and you don`t feel comfortable staying there longer. The term Irish farewell gained popularity in the 2000s. In the 2004 novel boarding call, for example, one character attempts an Irish exit before another asks him about it. In 2007, singer-songwriter Maria Taylor wrote a song called “Irish Goodbye” that begins with the lines “Nonstop talk / It`s eleven o`clock / There`s a line coming out the door / I`m not feeling it / But I juree I`d go”, the seed of an Irish farewell if we`ve ever heard one. In the 18th century, the English called the Irish farewell a French holiday, while the French returned the favor with English spinning or “English holidays”. Other variants include Dutch Leave and Ghosting, which has continued to be a staple term for emerging Irish relationships in the age of smartphones, online dating. Some countries use their own versions of this term. For example, Germany, which is geographically close to Poland, has come up with its own expression “to make a Polish exit”. It is not known why the English decided to associate such an exit with the France, but the French did not take it lightly. In the United States, the “Irish exit” or “irish goodbye” is a satisfying way to deal with the pleasantry overload: when it`s time to leave a party, head to the door.
Don`t tell anyone; Do not thank the host; Just go out. However, what you call this rejection of a polite farewell depends on where you live. And it took me a while to realize that. Personally, the Irish exit only shone when I attended my first post-graduate networking event – that distinct void where dark reality meets strong despair. Young men wore ill-fitting navy blue suits instead of jeans to look older. The old men wore tube jeans hugging the scrotum instead of costumes to look younger. Of course, I wanted to leave as soon as I arrived. As I waded towards our merry host to say goodbye briefly, I was stopped by an outstretched arm. And a confused voice struck my ear. But like any social construct, the label of saying goodbye to the Irish exit has “ground rules” that make all the difference. There are many reasons to want to leave a party without saying goodbye. You might be in a hurry, or maybe avoid a confrontation, or maybe you don`t feel like going through the 10-say bell in a row.
And if you do, you`ll likely be accused of saying goodbye to an Irish farewell. Or is it perhaps a French result? Or maybe well, there are actually a few different options. You`ve probably heard of the “Irish exit” – leaving a party without saying goodbye to anyone. But why should the Irish have a monopoly on evasive social maneuvers? No matter where you`re from, you deserve to leave a party after uttering no more than six words. Here we offer solutions for anti-socialites inspired by many major American cities. As for the “Polish exit”, the Germans imagined it after the fall of the Berlin Wall. What exactly you call this social maneuver depends on where you come from. Each country seems to have its own version of the Irish farewell, with most citing another country as the source of this exit strategy. Which targeted country can be revealing, but what exactly does it reveal? The use of this term to mock a country is also reflected in the German alternative, the Polish exit.
This may be the latest version of the name, and Zeit magazine says it only appeared after the fall of the Berlin Wall, when jokes about Polish flights were commonplace. This is also related to the specific non-country “like a thief” or the Irish exit [ahy-rish good-bahy] or [ahy-rish eg-zit]. There are phrases similar to Irish Exit that have the same meaning. Some of them contain the names of other countries and nations. There are also a few other outstanding variants, one of which is the Irish farewell itself, which seems to be used only by the English and Americans. Similarly, Germany has made the expression a Polish exit, which means “to make a Polish exit.” But for the most part, these European phrases fall on the side of French or English. And the good thing is that the first “peace!” is the deepest. Once you`ve popped that cherry, you develop a reputation, personality, and aura as an Irish dropout. People expect it. And even admire for it.
It`s just a small nuance of character that`s part of your personality. You become the person who keeps the party going, without interruption, by sneaking in. You will never be convinced to “stay one more” and end up, unfortunately, with five. You`re never stuck with an embarrassing half-hug, or a latecomer who wants to come with you, or doubts giving in to FOMO-induced fears. The fact that there are so many differences in the names is a good indication that it`s not like the French actually invented the French exit, just as they didn`t invent French Fries or the French Horn.
